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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    Her eyes got really wide....it never occurred to me this could be profound to her. Funny how simple things others realize easily can seem so novel and perspective-changing for us at times. People have told me very simple things that really shook me up for the better.
    This is really good. For all we talk about "Lines of Integration" in enneagram theory, I think the larger idea--and one that no one ever mentions--is that each type contributes something. We all have lessons to learn from each other.

    In my own case, some of the best lessons about life I've taken from a 6. Eye opening perspectives, even if it's my head-fix.

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    Nines: Release your anger as it comes, you'll be surprised how great it feels. You'll also come to realise that passivity is overrated. Deal with it, NOW. There really is a elegant simplicity to you but that doesn't encompass your ability to avoid conflicts.
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    Quote Originally Posted by panicstation View Post
    Dear 1s : Are you sure you always do the right thing? Never do the wrong thing? Do you realise giving people harsh critics is the wrong thing? It's okay to tell someone if they make mistake and criticise 'em, but please never give 'em harsh critics. Give 'em constructive critics instead cz not all people can handle critics. There are ppl who is too sensitive with criticism. Give critics softly and warmly if you wanna give criticism for people. For example start with "You did an almost good job, but (point their mistakes softly and warmly). We're only human, and humans sometimes do the wrong thing, whether they realise it or not. I didn't tell you to stop criticize people, because criticism is still good for people to help 'em improve. I just tell you to change your way to criticise people. You can be role model for people because of your desire to do the right thing. That's what I like from you. But all people make mistakes, includes you and me. Nobody's perfect.
    Plenty of 1s already follow your advice. Sounds like you've had a bad experience with one or two 1s in particular, who aren't representative of the general whole.

    Quote Originally Posted by small.wonder View Post
    1's: I fall on the other side of truth from you and sometimes it's frustrating-- I value the authentic, you value the correct, and oh what a sea lies between the two. You could do so much good if you could only get your hands dirty, and see clearly in the mirror. The most painful irony with you, is that you think discernment is turning a blind eye to your own filth. In reality, true discernment requires first to see one's own mess.
    Healthy 1s are a lot less hypocritical, IME, in that they actually DO turn their perfectionism inward. Problem is, the focus is still on making things perfect, or as perfect as possible. No way to avoid that except to acknowledge that the best you can do is ALMOST meet your mark -- ALMOST be perfect. Since perfection is impossible (and boring).

    Quote Originally Posted by Deceptive View Post
    1 - I get terrified when I see your type repress their anger. It's like a ticking time bomb where the time changes in accordance to your ability to control your anger at that moment. Scary shit, yo. At least with the 8s, you know when they'll blow up, with you, it's a mystery. I don't know whether to run or continue.
    Not sure how 1s would fix that. Best I can say is what @Hard said, i.e. that most likely you'll never see us actually blow up. Most you'll likely see is maybe one shouted phrase (followed by an apology), or a really heated discussion/argument about something impersonal.

    Quote Originally Posted by Corsiva View Post
    1's:Your quest for righteousness is an admirable one, and in some ways I can understand. However, fear of failure is a failure in itself in that it impedes upon improvement. Don't be so hard on yourself, failures are stepping stones.
    This is really nice -- like the verbal equivalent of a back massage.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    Not sure how 1s would fix that. Best I can say is what @Hard said, i.e. that most likely you'll never see us actually blow up. Most you'll likely see is maybe one shouted phrase (followed by an apology), or a really heated discussion/argument about something impersonal.
    It's very bizarre to me because unlike, 8s and 9s, who express their anger during times of stress, you can see 1s physically repress theirs. Fascinating, it really shows how self-controlled you are (or at least, try to be).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deceptive View Post
    It's very bizarre to me because unlike, 8s and 9s, who express their anger during times of stress, you can see 1s physically repress theirs. Fascinating, it really shows how self-controlled you are (or at least, try to be).
    Yeah exactly. If we were experts at self-control, then no one would ever know that dirty little secret.
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