Some 8's are better at answering questions then others. For instance, I have one 8w7 sp/sx manager and he seems annoyed when you continually ask him questions, but he will just take a deep breath and answer them for you. I think he has come to realize the fact that he comes off as abrasive to others, and has really tended to curb that tendency. The other 8w9 patrol guy is just a pain in the ass: he will laugh at you and he will look at you like you're a moron for asking him questions. I'm better at asking the 8w7 manager questions, but poor at asking the 8w9 guy. It really depends more on the maturity level of the particular 8 in question for me.The idea is, if you need the information, then you need it. If you don't, why are you asking at all? If you're needing to ask, then ask and be upfront about it. Give the situation some dignity and respect. It isn't like all of us are immediately going to bite someone heads off. In fact, I've had people frequently tell me I seem really scary, bitchy, cold-hearted... then when they get to know me, all those ideas vanish. It's a delusion people have--but they'll never get over it if they don't make steps to do so. I can't change someone's mind actively, they'll figure out if I'm really all those things or not on their own. Even if it's scary.. It isn't like there isn't anyone that intimidates me in my life either. Yet I get up there and do it. Because it is a sign of respect. I have a lot of trouble talking about my feelings, and it takes a lot to muster up that strength to do so.. but it's okay, and I do it, because I know it's important and there's a degree of health to it.
Probably because you are an ENFP. They have Fi and tend to be a bit more empathetic than other 8's. God forbid if it's an ENTJ 8, then I just say, "Fuck it" and don't even try anymore. ENTJ's already hate to repeat themselves, if you combine that with core 8, then it's just plain hopeless.To be fair, teachers ought to have extensive training about how to properly teach students. I don't really have any problems getting a student to finally learn a subject regardless of how many times and ways I have to explain it.
Yes, I am very guilty of daydreaming and not paying attention. I have ADD from hell, but I've improved over the years.It's a frustration, sure. But that's something 8s just work on with themselves. Because, really, no one gets EVERYTHING the first go-around in their lives. Frequently, though, I found that many people not getting a task immediately are not getting it because of distractions or a lack of paying attention--they didn't hear it the first time, they were on their phones, they didn't care then, they were daydreaming, and then they ask again because they realized too late important stuff was being said/done. So it is grating when you see that so constantly and frequently, and you're going to sometimes get mad at people who genuinely had real distractions they couldn't help, but it is what it is.
I'm glad you've become more self-aware over the years.I've learned the hard way that this is exactly how I come off. Nearly everyone I knew in the army thought I was a terrible scary person when they first met me.