Seriously stop it it's annoying. It's the enneagram communities favourite thing to do is type everyone as a 6. Guess what not everyone who is aggressive is a 6. 6s aren't even known as being aggressive that's just stupid. That's nowhere in their descriptions counter phobic or not. I have yet to see a 6 going around verbally smashing everyone he sees. DJ even made a big thread about this before about how everyone wouldn't stop trying to type him as a 6.
I know 6s will project their own insecurities on to everyone else automatically and think everyone else is 6s too but the rest of you have no excuse. Try using some critical thought or logic when you type someone it works better.
Hey. I strongly agree. I hung around on the internet too long, and I even fell prey to this mentality myself. I couldn't figure out what the hell I was, so I just assumed I had to be a 6 by default. Doesn't help that there's a very real chorus of people making remarks about how "attachment types just can't see themselves", "sixes don't know they're sixes", and "you just can't admit it". That and the folks who use type 6 as an insult or try to get you to believe that, what, 90% of humanity is actually a 6. It's frustrating to deal with.
Before I was educated I actually fell into this way of thinking myself--since more knowledgeable people than me were telling me this stuff was true, I assumed it was true. I even perpetuated it! Thank God, I've done my own research by now.
I guess it doesn't help that I do have a 6-fix and can actually see what might go wrong sometimes, but people were using this fact about me to PROVE to me that I was a 6, even though I said I don't relate to existential anxiety overall, my entire way of thinking is geared toward myself (not watching others), guidance has never been a real issue, I have no major issues with authority, etc. etc. etc. It's like you can't have ONE type 6 trait at all without you being a core 6 in denial! What's up with that?
Yeah, not everyone who is aggressive is a 6, either, just like not everyone who can anticipate a problem is a 6. The whole thing is becoming some sort of online feeding frenzy where bored kids get their kicks by trying to make you brainwash yourself into being something you're not. I have no further words about this situation, except to report that there were MAJOR ramifications when I realized I'd been duped and came out that I wasn't a 6 at all.
(This was on another forum, btw)
I agree with this. It seems like if no one can figure out a person's type, then the go-to type is 6, and that gets pretty old.
Yeah, that's both lame and non-conducive to actually learning the material in greater depth. Needless to say, it inhibits genuine self-reflection and self-exploration.
I think it comes from a line in Riso and Hudson where they basically say that 6s are inherently contradictory, so that if you know someone who is a "ball of opposites" that person is probably a 6. That's a major part of the rationale people used for me, actually. I'm contradictory. You can't figure out my type, therefore I'm a 6. Even though I couldn't see it for months after typing that way. I just can't admit it. Right.
It got VERY tiresome, though it was interesting to watch the group think involved, I must say. Fact is, I'm half 4 and half 8, and that is asking for as contradictory a motherfucker as they come. I don't know why that should be hard to accept--personality is complex, and surely 6s aren't the only people that can't be figured out.