Well let's not blame anything hereThat's ok! My language was certainly not friendly. I guess it's the Te coming through.
I see what you mean. I've seen such cases myself :/Yeah, that's fair. I still don't really understand why. The elements of it didn't even all connect - like what the insults were for. Or why she was telling them to me.
I see. I guess you give a chance to those people first anyway, and explain your stance, and not just simply cutting them out without further explanation.Yeah, I know what you mean. Hard to judge a case without knowing the specifics. I guess I am betraying these people sort of but I guess when I "weigh" that against the other people in my life who are being nice and spreading kindness it seems "worth" it. Like... it's not betrayal because they were the one who chose to be hurtful, and it's my responsibility to protect the people I love. I think the Social 6 is supposed to have hangups with "duty", and I do. And when two "duties" clash... I choose the one I have more loyalty to, I guess. Tighter bonds.
That's interesting you'd think about the difference between curiosity and kindness. This is just my opinion but I feel that that's the sort of analysis that just creates unnecessary blaming of yourself. I referred to it earlier as "no one is a saint". So if the motives aren't pure that's acceptable because no one is perfect. I would still think that some of it is the "real kindness". Well you can see I'm pretty laid back about interpretation of such moral issues, more relative than absolute in my view. That's going off topic here though :pYeah, I agree with you. I wish I knew. There's part of me that wants to see if I can strike the friendship back up, but to be honest I think it'd be more about curiosity than real kindness, and I think if I found out the reason and I didn't like it I'd probably ditch her again. So that seems kind of mean. Might just be better to leave it alone, I figure, unless the natural course of life dictates otherwise.