Yeah, it's something about that EXXJ energy that just so naturally runs the show. My ESFJ mom is just as bad as my ENFJ dad, and I have an ESTJ friend whose role in our friendship includes bossing me around (in a mutually respective, friend dynamic way). I also find those are all people who are difficult to mentally relax around. They've got such a go/do mindset that they're always right there with you talking about what's next or what to do now. I can get caught up in that, but sometimes I flat out reject it. I'm getting better at rejecting it as I get older.
Either way, I feel like NFJs do share a lot, even though they have a much different energy, and I'm happy to be in the support group with some awesome ENFP e7s.
Also your cook time seems much like my hair straightener time. Days man. So scary, hah.
^^yah...I had a bad hair henna experience. That shit actually works beyond 'natural conditioning'...and your hair will be jett black for several years thereafter if you forget it's on your head and fall asleep.
My ESFJ supervisor and my Mom definitely shared some similarities...but there were some amazing no,...breathtaking ha 'in your face' differences as well.
You need to answer too fs.
Through every forest, above the trees
Within my stomach, scraped off my knees
I drink the honey inside your hive
You are the reason I stay alive
I have a lot of Ne and 7 integration, and my mom is an INFJ. Can I join the party?
(I do relate to a lot of what you're talking about, re: relaxing. I don't relate to it with NFJ friends, but when it's a parent, it's different. Was sort of a weird balance, in my household, between having freedom and independence and nurturing support, and simultaneously having silent, implied judgment aimed at me. Should clarify that my mom is also a 1w2.)
I've never been told I'm hard to relax around. I've heard that about Te-doms but never about me personally. Am I hard to relax around?