A lot of Sixes are mistyping as Fours. One of the reason for mistyping is due to how type 4 is frequently described. The picture of a romantic, feeling, artistic and melancholic type is especially appealing to all NF types regardless if they are actually 4s or not. On the other hand a lot of type 6 descriptions tend to give a rather SJ picture of a dutiful and loyal person. But even if you scratch off such rather stereotypical portrays there are a lot of 6s who will point out how much they can relate to the 4 descriptions.
The interesting thing for me is how many people relate to the 4 descriptions but interpret them in a sixish way. A while ago I realized that there are similar words used to describe 4s and 6s which makes for some confusion. After some great help I can hopefully make better sense of it now.
being different – being deviating
understanding yourself – knowing yourself
to be authentic – to be true to yourself
It’s not a matter which set of terms you like better but what pattern lies behind those.
Being different – being deviating
Fours have a deep-ingrained feeling that there’s something wrong with them. They don’t know what it is, but it’s at the root of their alienation and their feeling of being different. Sixes on the other hand are a relating type and notice how they deviate from the norm and how they are different from others. It becomes noticeable in how both types react towards a changing or fixing. For Sixes it’s about getting rid of their flaws and fixing the things that make them deviate (Of course there’s also the counter version 6 who is deliberately deviating from the norm), whereas Fours don’t know what’s wrong with them. So how could you fix it anyway? But even if it would be possible there’s a repulsion coming up because it is so deeply ingrained in them, it’s part of who they are and getting rid of it would mean getting rid of who they are.
Understanding yourself – knowing yourself
The core fear of Sixes is of not knowing themselves and of not having an inner guidance. Knowing themselves means for Sixes to get a better sense of their self, to know what they are and want and of not following someone else’s lead or idea. Understanding for Fours means to understand what’s wrong with them. In comparison with Sixes they have a strong sense of self though they don’t think they understand themselves because understanding themselves would mean they would understand what makes them wrong.
Getting healthy 6s will get a stronger sense of self while 4s realize there’s nothing wrong with them at all.
To be authentic – to be true to yourself
Being true to yourself ties in with the 6s fear of following someone’s elses lead and of not having an inner guidance. If they are in accordance with their own self and their own lead they are true to themselves. 4s as image-type are concerned about presenting themselves as authentic (being authentic) and of not showing off an artifical image.