lol... I was joking with another member about experiences with someone who fits that description
the sex was good, but then again he had something like 15 years and 3 wives on me, so he should have known what he was doing... that's a plus
...of course I really wished that he'd shut up sometimes. Some discussion is good and sexy, like when we'd discuss literature and social sciences and things that we'd eaten or drank, pleasantly impersonal topics, but then he'd decide to dig in and discuss things that were not only personal, but were things that I had absolutely no intention of ever dragging into the light of day... something like an emotional equivalent of discussing one's favorite way of wiping one's ass in proper conversation. And if I didn't participate he'd decide that it was because I just wasn't aware, not because I didn't want to fucking talk about it, so he'd drag me in by making assumptions about me.
When I shot down the topic of conversation he'd either make a comment along the lines of "ooh, too close to home?" or "I see, you're just pretending to be interested in things because it's cool to show interest in some topics." That pissed me off too because he should have been able to pick up on the pattern of discussions that I'd participate in and those that I wouldn't by then... maybe he did and was just trying to goad me into jumping in on the ones that I didn't like... who knows?
He could make me feel desirable though, the way that he could look at me across a crowded room... looking me in the eye and smiling in a way that seemed like the smile was just for me and only me, the little acts of physical contact in crowded public locations, the interest in what I thought on things...
I can say that the experience was a mixed bag in a way... it ended after I discovered that he was still married and that he'd told his wife about me, which kind of freaked me out
so for the condensed version: intensity can be a good thing, it can be an incredibly mouthwatering thing to show passion about someone and about ideas as well, however, one should also learn when to back off
Human beings make life so interesting. Do you know that in a universe so full of wonders, they have managed to invent boredom? -Terry Pratchett