However over time I realized I was dating one aggressive jerk after another, and the guys I liked best were more intellectual and shy and "respectful." On top of that, it went against my very nature to want something and not to go after it in a very direct manner. Over time I ended up going after what I want directly and boldly. Now, I end up in relationships that actually work for me because I end up with men who respect my strength and boldness (in other words, who like me for who I really am) , and who have a dynamic that "works" with mine. Too much braun in one relationship is not a good idea.
So if you were female and an 8, you might end up pursuing regardless. I say, screw society's notions of what it means to be an alpha female, or a female at all. I'm in charge of my destiny, and I get what I want.