dad : 6w7-2w3-9w8
older brother: 5w6-3w4-1w9
Our personalities are wildly different. The most obvious similarity is that we're all pretty limbic rather than calm, but we have completely different methods of dealing with it.
Assuming e-type is influenced by someone's upbringing, I think I could have turned out to be a phobic 6, 4 So or 4 Sp in different circumstances.
Having a rather high-strung and easily hurt mother could be part of why I turned out to be a 9 - I felt the need to keep the peace to prevent her from getting upset. My parents were also fairly permissive and I felt pretty well-understood by my mom, so I didn't develop that much of an overtly rebellious streak or a sense that I was completely different from everyone else.
“If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us.” - Hermann Hesse
I need to correct this, as I realized a few weeks ago that my Dad is 3w4, not 8w7 (though he still has it in his tritype). If you are interested in a breif overview of how I arrived at that conclusion, you can find it here.
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