If your instictual variant is one of 3 different preferences in descending order of preference and you're attracted to someone who is different from you, but also complimentary then would a sx/so/sp work best with say a sx/sp/so or a so/sx/sp but NOT a sp/so/sx? (On the average). I realized most of my long term girlfriends were sx first. Does it work for you?
1/2/3 with 1/3/2 or 2/1/3 not 3/2/1. Someone too opposite from you would be stressful to be around. Someone too similar would be too identical and would run into the same problems in life that you do.