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    IME, I.S.V. are likely to play a major role, in unconsciously guiding ppl in their potential mate screening process.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    I think double sx/so relationships lead to too little sp, and they won't handle the necessary shit everyone needs to get done.
    I can vouch for this. Still waiting for a free volunteer maid/accountant/secretary to work for a peanut to come bail me and my husband out of household drudgery.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    I think sx dom's probably want another sx dom, tho, cuz, otherwise, they'll feel like the depth of merging/connection is missing.
    I seriously think so too.

    Are there basic problems in understandings if the sx/so/sp order is not in accord in a couple? Doesn't that cause distance in a relationship? Right from the start? Does the level of mutual understanding on a visceral level ever rise to satisfaction?

    Are healthy vibes present, resonating harmoniously of people with the same instinctual variants? Are different instinctual variants couples bad for each other compared with how wonderfully opposites can be, as I've heard, with MBTI?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    I think double sx/so relationships lead to too little sp, and they won't handle the necessary shit everyone needs to get done.
    What would discipline needed to clean one's house have to do with one's sex/social/self-preservational drive combination?

    What about just one's desire to live in a clean place?
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    Under the assumption I'm sp/so.

    My boyfriend is either sp/so or so/sp, and being together over 2 yrs, without many issues with misunderstanding or conflicts in terms of intimacy, I think it works well.

    That said, I do feel it might not be 'ideal' in some ways...theoretically, I think I might be best, in terms of complementing each other rather than being really similar, with an sp/sx or so/sx. I think that would lead to a little more what I'll call natural 'zest' and chemistry in some respects, the sx person bringing me out a bit more in certain ways. I think my first boyfriend may have been an xx/sx.

    I will say that a collossal fail of a relationship that I had many many years ago was with an sx-dom ENxP, and in hindsight I think some of the major conflict and why it didn't work and he thought I was 'broken' and I felt completely stifled and consumed (and we both became kind of unhealthy in different ways, as neither of us felt 'safe') was because of he being sx-dom.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cascadeco View Post
    Under the assumption I'm sp/so.

    My boyfriend is either sp/so or so/sp, and being together over 2 yrs, without many issues with misunderstanding or conflicts in terms of intimacy, I think it works well.

    That said, I do feel it might not be 'ideal' in some ways...theoretically, I think I might be best, in terms of complementing each other rather than being really similar, with an sp/sx or so/sx. I think that would lead to a little more what I'll call natural 'zest' and chemistry in some respects, the sx person bringing me out a bit more in certain ways.

    I will say that a collossal fail of a relationship that I had many many years ago was with an sx-dom ENxP, and in hindsight I think some of the major conflict and why it didn't work and he thought I was 'broken' and I felt completely stifled and consumed was because of he being sx-dom.
    That's interesting the language you used... my ESTJ is so/sp, and I’m sx/sp, so we are opposites, and he says the same thing. His idea and expression of intimacy and need for it is very different from mine, but through the years I have acclimated. Instinctual stackings have definitely helped me understand him much better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cascadeco View Post
    Under the assumption I'm sp/so.
    I will say that a collossal fail of a relationship that I had many many years ago was with an sx-dom ENxP, and in hindsight I think some of the major conflict and why it didn't work and he thought I was 'broken' and I felt completely stifled and consumed (and we both became kind of unhealthy in different ways, as neither of us felt 'safe') was because of he being sx-dom.
    Quote Originally Posted by Mia. View Post
    That's interesting the language you used... my ESTJ is so/sp, and I’m sx/sp, so we are opposites, and he says the same thing. His idea and expression of intimacy and need for it is very different from mine, but through the years I have acclimated. Instinctual stackings have definitely helped me understand him much better.
    Isn't a fundamental-level understanding essential? A visceral bonding? I guess that's must be my sx/so.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Avatar7 View Post
    Isn't a fundamental-level understanding essential? A visceral bonding? I guess that's must be my sx/so.
    Essential? No. Easier? Yes.

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    I think the worst combos for me would be sp-last and/or so-dom. The other combinations are more alluring, in different ways.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    I think sx dom's probably want another sx dom, tho, cuz, otherwise, they'll feel like the depth of merging/connection is missing.

    As such, I think sx/so probably goes best with sx/sp, but maybe sp/sx and so/sx could work, especially if the aux is close in strength to the dom.

    I don't see an sx dom being satisfied in a relationship with an sp/so or so/sp, with sx last, cuz the sx dom's desired level of merger would be missing.
    I think there is truth to these things. The dominant instinct is not a strength. It is a weakness - like a distortion. It would seem like there would be a great deal of intensity between two sx doms but the two wouldn't help each other to moderate that weakness and so it might not be good for the long term. I wonder if you could end up with two people who are co-dependent and don't have sufficient boundaries. So maybe it is better for the dominant to match up with the secondary - as you say - an sx/sp with an so/sx or something like that.

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