The three orientations are a little limited/limiting but this is closer to what I grew up with:
Would have been nice to turn out an 8. :wistful:Active child vs. Active parent
This scenario is thought to produce Enneagram type 8.
The child and parent experience open conflicts on a regular basis. They both have different agendas and oppose each other, thus giving rise to power struggles and explosive arguments. The Active parent is impatient and intolerant of the child's rebellious nature and tries to impose his will in an authoritarian fashion. The Active child, on the other hand, becomes aggressive, argumentative and persistent in getting his own way. The relationship becomes a sort of battlefield, which is how the child will later perceive the world around him (type 8).
Such a childhood scenario encourages the child to develop a keen eye for spotting other people's weaknesses and a thirst for imposing their will in an overly aggressive fashion. They learn to be assertive, strong and deny their fears and feelings of intimidation. These are the traits they needed to have in order to stand up to their domineering parents and still keep their own Active inborn approach.
Active is not entirely accurate for me as a child but neither is neutral, and I think the definition also depends on if its being applied to how you approached your children/parents and how you approach the world (which is an important distinction I think...) I was never domineering as a child, did not fight, was very easy going, but I was also very independent and wanted to do my own thing.
Also, I think my mom would characterize the relationship as above but I perceived it more as Neutral child vs Active parent. Maybe that's the gold formula for 7s.
Also, I guess I lied because I'm still responding to this thread. x2
Also, the Neutral child vs Responsive parent sounds textbook happy INTx childhood in a typical, functional home life. No wonder so many INTx's are Fives. All things being equal, aren't INTx generally Neutral in their orientation to other people and don't parents (at least in America) strive to be Responsive? x 3