when i used to get caught up in trying to figure out my type (or decide my type, maybe i should say, because i think ultimately it's a decision, not a Truth, since all persons contain all enneagram flavors), i would try to back up and ask myself why i was even bothering with the enneagram in the first place - for self-development. at some point it eventually hit me that my most debilitating problem in life is insecurity - and bingo, there was my enneagram answer.
i don't always fit everything about 6, just like i don't always fit everything about ENFP, but the important thing to me is that the 6 perspective helps me look at certain situations and identify other ways i could handle them. my boyfriend - not sure what type he is, but maybe some kind of 3-9-7 combination - is helping me see life as less of a series of oncoming crises (how 6 of me) and more of a smooth path. it's fascinating... for the first time, i'm not freaking out about everything. i'm learning to see things that aren't ideal to me as either problems that can be handled or bumps that can be taken in stride - not huge obstacles to aggressively tackle before they even arise. i'm learning about balance and equanimity. growing towards 9.