This is the same idea as the "soul child" I've seen thrown around - the idea that we demonise our point of integration because it feels so antithetical to our way of being. It also relates to the idea that we project our own sense of inferiority onto other people, looking down on those who seem to embody what we don't feel comfortable with.
Growth comes from accepting these ways of being as just another part of ourselves, so we can become more comfortable with who we are as a result.
- 1s strive to be perfect, and striving to be excited (7) can seem like wanting to be irresponsible and fool-hardy.
- 2s strive to be connected, and striving to be unique (4) can seem like wanting to be selfish and isolating.
- 3s strive to be outstanding, and striving to be secure (6) can seem like wanting to be lazy and mediocre.
- 4s strive to be unique, and striving to be perfect (1) can seem like wanting to be stifled and repressed.
- 5s strive to be detached, and striving to be powerful (8) can seem like wanting to be out of control and overwhelming.
- 6s strive to be secure, and striving to be peaceful (9) can seem like wanting to be passive and unguarded.
- 7s strive to be excited, and striving to be detached (5) can seem like wanting to be dull and boring.
- 8s strive to be powerful, and striving to be connected (2) can seem like wanting to be weak and dependant on others.
- 9s strive to be peaceful, and striving to be outstanding (3) can seem like wanting to be arrogant and demanding.
Does anyone recognise this sort of thing in themselves? What sort of people do you tend to look down on, and why?
A lot of this is taken from this book, which I highly recommend (it does a really good job of clarifying the points of integration/disintegration, as well as applicable/practical recommendations for growth):