yeah, at the same time she used to represent to you whats accepted, wanted, whats The Best, and what culture accepts, but at the other side that's simply not you, you have your personal desires etc. that are not exactly like cultures/hers so you cant look up to her if you want to be yourself.but her job kind of takes the edge off because it's not the direction i want to go in. but at the same time, that's kind of unfortunate, because that doesn't help me at all figure out what i want to do. she can't be a sort of guidepost for me anymore
Originally Posted by Speed Gavroche
Originally Posted by Interview with Helen Palmer
I see in the bolded part of Palmer's interview exactly what Skylights's been explaining about her own case, that anxiety about "who am i?".
Not all 3s are always 3s, some 3s become 6 and 9s. In my own case, I am a 3, but for example my older sister is an ESTJ and a 3. She took all the lime light, which is one of the reason why I am not so much in 3, I could achieve but my sister was dominant and would get more apraisal, which makes me move more to 9. How I know I am a 3 is that I am incredibely achievement oriented, and it's my Top priority, but achievements wont make me happy by themselves, motives need to be genuine, but I always Ltry to "save myself" by planning big come backs. Nothing can make me more miserable than feeling like a "failure", which is not the case with some of my friends, you can see a clear difference; example INFJ-9.... he is not so vain about success as i am, i dislike letting know my "enemies" my failures sick. then a 5 friend - he can not believe how obsessed with success I am... it became obvious isince i wasnt as successful in everything, while i was the best in my eyes, i wasnt aware how imp it is for me D
I also think that being a 3 doesnt mean neccessary being ingenuine, after all, 3's gift is "truthfulness".
.....but a healthy Three for example, actually just has an amazing love of integrity, they've seen through their game, ..do you understand, it's "i dont want to do that anymore, i am sick of doing that, and actually have a passion for integrity, more than most people... - Richard Rorh, at Oprah radio.
Example of ENFP and 3. "Transformed"