The neutral child, active parent, definitely describes my relationship with my father as a child.
However, I can't figure out mine and my mom's relationship at a very early age. I want to say she was a responsive parent, but I never felt smothered. Nor did I feel the need to go out of my way to grab her attention. ...or so I don't think.
As I got older, however, say middle school, I became more active with my mother who became more neutral... and in highschool more active with both parents, I think. (But I suppose that's normal rebellion.)
I'd rather say, I was neutral with my mother and that she was responsive... however, I failed to notice my mother's responses... but at the same time she was my safe net. So, I never felt smothered.