i haven't quite figured this out. the riso hudson compatibility types make sense. but i can't really see it from the point of view of females. what female enneagram types are most likely to be attracted to 5w4 males? we seem like one of the worst types as far as embracing what is generally considered to be attractive male behavior. i would say it probably looks better on intps, but then i think of my intp 5w4 friends and, chuckling, it sure doesn't. just more whatever-the-geek-equivalent-of-flamboyant-is geeky. militantly?
the enneagram usually has strong correlations with the integration/distintegration points. i have instant chemistry with 7w6s, but it seems so unfathomably outside of what they are looking for in a relationship. i've probably attracted the most enduring interest from 9s and 6s.
this is a major problem when you are trying to see yourself accurately and maintain a stable self-image.