What kind of -relationship- issues do you have connected with your type and it's links to the instinctual variants? what common complaints do people have about you?
I'm fairly sure i'm an sp/sx 6.
I don't have problems with romantic relationships most of all, I have problems with platonic friendships. I end friendships often before they begin because I know i'm going to get little out of it, so I don't bother. People end up getting so frustrated at me, "I just want to be friends!". With me, I don't need stray friends i'm not really into. I don't keep up with acquaintances at all, especially if they want to hang out more. I separate friends as people I like, and those I don't particularly like, as acquaintances by the way.
I end relationships when I suspect someone is into me more than i'm into them. Or if I think they like me in a 'more than a friend' way. Sometimes I think i'm projecting and being a bitch, but honestly, friend zoning people has lead to them passive aggressively hating me anyway, so we may as well end it there anyway.
I don't have many relationships with men, because I really can't deal with the attention that could be misconstrued by me, as anything more than platonic. Sometimes it's me projecting, but every guy (and there are only a few) i've gotten to know, has wanted more from me. usually i'm warm and friendly, but around guys I have to be rigid and not give any signals in any way, that I might like them as more than a friend. It means I can't really be myself. I really only want attention from a SO not anyone else. I realise this is my problem, not theirs, which is why I deal with it.
I'm very future focused, and health focused. If I can tell someone is going to be draining, parasitic or a handful, I don't bother with them from the beginning. I really want the relationship to be healthy, so I don't bother with relationships if I'm not healthy either.
I guess many people would say i'm very withdrawn and hard to access. It's for a good reason. I simply can't keep up with someone i'm not interested in. I don't want to feign friendly. Especially if their clingy, that's a sure way to put an end to the connection right away. I don't expect people to change.
I think people would say I am quite self bound and not very open. I have to be safe before we get to that stage.