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    sp/sx here, and only a few people can get within my mental space, but once you're in, God are you in

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    sx/so - my standards are extremely high and i will just flat out ignore anyone that i dont want to deal with. rude as it may be i just dont feel like wasting time on someone i know i dont want to be around. although there are the rare times i will just to amuse myself lol and while i do know a lot of people, i never ignore my core group of friends becasue ive chosen to have them in my life. so yeh, i like to be in control of that. but i think everyone does to some degree.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Echoes View Post
    sp/sx here, and only a few people can get within my mental space, but once you're in, God are you in
    You don't need to say anymore than that. I know exactly what you mean

    Quote Originally Posted by IheartFootball10 View Post
    sx/so - my standards are extremely high and i will just flat out ignore anyone that i dont want to deal with. rude as it may be i just dont feel like wasting time on someone i know i dont want to be around. although there are the rare times i will just to amuse myself lol and while i do know a lot of people, i never ignore my core group of friends becasue ive chosen to have them in my life. so yeh, i like to be in control of that. but i think everyone does to some degree.
    Yeah I agree everyone's like this to a degree. But honestly, I flat out ignore (though i'm still aware and thinking about them) almost every person, apart from someone i'm willing to be intimate with. I think I know what you mean by amusing yourself... I think :P

    I never used to be this bad, but now that i've become more comfortable being myself and being on my own, i'll only consider one person as a possible intimate (and let's be honest, romantic/sexual interest) at a time. It means that -everyone- (though if I had children, I wouldn't ignore them) else gets put on the back burner. I'm glad you keep your friends in mind, I regret not putting more effort into friendships. This trend of my own lack of attention to friendships is more a four issue, of wanting what you can't have, and taking for granted what you do have. I find it hard to consider people as friends, and there tends to be a great disconnect between the amount of time I wish to spend with each of them as individuals. Because of the lack of attention to some of them, a lot of my friends end up wittling down to only the ones I really like. I tend to have max 2-3 friends at a time for this reason.

    I get really overwhelmed when random people show interest in me. They want to get to know me more, and i'm like no no nooo. 'I'm talking to somebody else at the moment' lol. It sounds so weird to explain.
    It's like I feel like I'm cheating on the person I like on an intimate level, even if we're just talking and not involved, when I "get to know" somebody else. Even if I sort of like them, I shut them down, because my interest lies elsewhere.

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    sx's is do you like to be in control of the intensity thrust your way, or who you find intensity within?

    Yes, very much so.

    Perfect example is if i am interested in you .. You'll know about it. However if you are interested in me and i'm not, then don't waste your time but we could possibly be friends.

    My best friend, we haven't seen each other since May, i think. I don't need people to be in my life 24/7. I'm happier catching up every so often then drifting away again. I don't like being in situations where i have to behave a particular way and that goes with friends/family/lovers also.

    Down side is then that i am not consistent but i'm a free spirit .. Like it or lump it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by saslou View Post
    sx's is do you like to be in control of the intensity thrust your way, or who you find intensity within?

    Yes, very much so.

    Perfect example is if i am interested in you .. You'll know about it. However if you are interested in me and i'm not, then don't waste your time but we could possibly be friends.

    My best friend, we haven't seen each other since May, i think. I don't need people to be in my life 24/7. I'm happier catching up every so often then drifting away again. I don't like being in situations where i have to behave a particular way and that goes with friends/family/lovers also.

    Down side is then that i am not consistent but i'm a free spirit .. Like it or lump it.
    Exactly. I'm a female and I've pursued with every guy i've ever been interested in (about 2 haha). Every other guy i've been approached by, i've kind of ignored and not given a chance :\ I really can't flirt or put effort into someone I don't like. They end up hating me for it, but eh. I don't have to stroke their egos because they think they deserve it by coming onto me. Blah.

    I'm exactly the same with my best friend too. Haven't seen her in a while, but usually when we come together again, it's exactly the same as we left off. That's the thing about being genuinely 'insync' with someone. You can still relate to them even when you both change and don't see each other for a while.
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    To me, the most frustrating part of being an sx/sp is that if I am interested in someone, yet they are not interested back, I exercise ridiculous amounts of self control just to avoid thinking about them, not to mention day dreaming/fantasizing about merely talking with them.

    When I do share a strong connection with someone, and I go through anywhere from a few months to a few years and finally "know them," I get... bored to some extent. Thus I've created a rather high standard for myself, one which others may not feel comfortable with: they must strive to grow.

    I had two "close" friends in highschool, who I eventually abandoned as they were not interested in growth. Through my early twenties I maintained minor friendships but nobody "close" aside my my significant others. Thinking about it now, for the first time, I suppose I've not truly had a close friend (longer than the usual sx/sp 1-2 weeks), in about nine years.
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    i used to be bad at ignoring my friends and just going off an doing my own thing all the time. i would see my friends like once every 6 mths and just pick up where we left off. but i ended up hurting a quite a few people doing that, and that wasnt cool on my part. however, i think they just didnt understand that i dont need friends around me all the damn time. but ive gotten much better with staying in touch and working on the friendships. even though sometimes...i just dont feel like it lol but ive learned to not ignore the ones that really care about you.
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