Hi, here's an attempt to clarify the Four/Nine boundry...Please pick which ones you think are typical in each list and add whatever experiences/comments you like. Cheers.
Can Fours typically:
9.1. Hate unnecessary drama.
9.2. Seek to be of service to others wherever possible, enjoy looking after those close to them, making them smile.
9.3. Resort to happy fantasy until problems 'blow over' rather than dwelling.
9.4. Usually seek to people please, not always jump to defend their thoughts/values/feelings when they feel it might cause friction.
9.5. Like being 'normal.'
9.6. Be low maintainance.
9.7. See the positives in most things/people.
9.8. Present a cheerful face to the world.
9.9. Not dwell on their insecurities much.
Can Nines typically:
4.1. Be openly emotional by nature (albeit to friends and loved ones, this doesn't necessarily refer to sharing problems.)
4.2. Enjoy a touch of darkness in imagination (literature etc, Burtonesque fantasy etc.)
4.3. Feel negative about the self.
4.4. Be inclined to express themselves well through fiction writing/poetry/art/music.
4.5. Idolize others (particularly lovers) whilst not seeing much good in themselves.
4.6. Come across as 'intense'
4.7. Lapse in self-analysis easily.
4.8. Happily relive/recollect cathartic moments as a means of relieving strong emotions.
4.9. Become depressive about problems rather than trying to ignore them.