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How last instincts affect how you get along with others

BlackCat

Shaman
Joined
Nov 19, 2008
Messages
7,038
MBTI Type
ESFP
Enneagram
9w8
Instinctual Variant
sx/sp
This is about how instincts affect your interactions. Like, how an sx first would get along with an sx last, etc.

So here are a few questions for you to answer! The first one is more general, the second and third ones more specific.

As an so first, how does someone having so last affect your interaction with them or how you like them?

-OR-

As an sx first, how does someone having sx last affect your interaction with them or how you like them?

-OR-

As an sp first, how does someone having sp last affect your interaction with them or how you like them?

Here's another question-

How do you get along with someone of an opposite stacking? How about someone who isn't opposite, but has your dominant instinct as their last (example- sx/sp interacting with sp/so).
 

BlackCat

Shaman
Joined
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Messages
7,038
MBTI Type
ESFP
Enneagram
9w8
Instinctual Variant
sx/sp
Alright, I'll start.

As an sx first, how does someone having sx last affect your interaction with them or how you like them?

I get the feeling that they are holding back something in their minds. Like they communicate indirectly or something; they have a mysterious feel to them. I often have to ask them direct questions to get the answers that I want, and that makes them feel uncomfortable it seems.

Also I feel like I'm being ignored if other people are around. It's like they have an unstable, unheard sx instinct in them. They don't know who to talk to, and never seem to give anyone enough in a social situation. Since I enjoy mainly one to one conversations, sx lasts seem to not really understand the concept of "bonding" at all. In fact, my best friend is an sp/so; and when we were reading about enneagram stuff and I showed him sx/sp, he asked me "what's bonding?" :laugh:

How do you get along with someone of an opposite stacking?

I tend to have awkward interactions with them. I feel kind of uncomfortable with it; and they seem to as well. We just don't have much to say to each other. In fact, the only so/sp that I've really gotten to know is my aunt; otherwise I just seem to naturally not get to know or meet so/sps.

How about someone who isn't opposite, but has your dominant instinct as their last?

I actually tend to get along well with sp/sos, but I still feel like they are a bit uncomfortable. My best friend and my dad are both sp/sos. I don't really feel uncomfortable with the interaction at all, but it takes a while for me and sp/sos to get comfortable with each other. But once we do, it's fine. I like them. :)

NOTE: Everything I said in general about sx lasts applies to so/sps and sp/sos for me on top of what I said specifically.
 

Amargith

Hotel California
Joined
Nov 5, 2008
Messages
14,717
MBTI Type
ENFP
Enneagram
4dw
Instinctual Variant
sx/so
NOTE: I'm 4 sx-so.

As an sx first, how does someone having sx last affect your interaction with them or how you like them?

I tend to not notice them and they don't notice me. If we're thrown in the mix, we make it work, but we don't naturally seek each other out, I feel. There's a lack of interest on both sides, though nothing that stands in the way of cooperating towards a common goal really.

How do you get along with someone of an opposite stacking?

They *can* aggrevate me. Especially those that are stuck in their dom SP style. It comes off almost selfish and narrowminded to be so focused on your own comfort constantly and complaining about every little physical discomfort, though I do understand that it is important to them. Add however some social guilttripping due to the fact that they feel others aren't accomodating their physical needs, and I wanna throw something at them :steam: :blush:

How about someone who isn't opposite, but has your dominant instinct as their last?

I get on with them alright, as we bond over the social thing. It's not nearly as intense as someone who's sx himself, but they do the social niceties just fine and it gives a warm and relaxed atmosphere to work with, though it typically lacks that *vibe* that draws me in.
 
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