No. You can only have wings that are one number higher or lower than your type. So a five can only have a wing of four or six, and that's it. Sometimes people can be equally influenced by both wings, but the vast majority are influenced by one wing more than the other. I think wings have to do with coping strategies. For example a two on the ennegram desires above all else to feel loved. To feel loved, they please people and go out of their way to seem kind, funny and likeable. if the two's main coping strategies fail, they'll go to either three's or four's coping strategies to make end's meet. For example a two with a three wing may not find people-pleasing enough to satiate their desperate need to feel loved, thus they may also overachieve, go out of their way to impress people by showing off their skills and talents, and try to charm others, like the three does. But the two is still essentially a two, and their core motivation - to feel loved - is only further gained by using the three's strategies, which are charm, talent and overachievement.Does that mean that I'm a 5 with wings pointing to 7. Another thought, is it me or does the emneagram descriptions seem to focus a lot on the unhealthy side of the emneagram types?
The enneagram must point out your negative habits in order for you to see them in real light, and begin letting go of those negative habits. When I first read the enneagram, I thought it was a face smiling down on me from heaven in my time of greatest need. I didn't even think of it as unnecessarily negative - I thought it really pegged me, even all my negative traits, and I think the blessing of the enneagram - if you can find a type description that truly fits you - is that it is honest, and it is true, and it makes you aware of your motivations so that you can literally let go of negative habits that have been plaguing you for years in just a few minutes.
If anything, I think it saved me. The advice it gave me still rings true today: I don't need anyone to love me in order to feel loved. It frees me from looking outside myself for completion.