Yes. Been there, done that. I learned how to do that in WORK situations long before family situations, mostly because I've not had many people that close to me in my later life. Thus it comes as a surprise to me that this person who really loves me and whom I really love is totally driving me bonkers and something has to change. It isn't that anyone is doing anything wrong, but that I lacked the kind of practice I needed to set strong boundaries ... boundaries would get drawn, but somehow they'd get drawn around the wrong things - petty instances instead of overall classes.