I'm not, though. I'm also referring to stuff from movies like Wrath of Khan, which has the Shatner Kirk. Shatner Kirk admitted to cheating at the academy (as shown in the 2009 movie)... in his youth, he probably was more like the Abrams Kirk (though there's the parenting issue, so he was probably somewhat less rebellious).And in TOS, Kirk is not especially "a man of action". He's the ultimate leader, always balancing every extreme under his command, always reactive, and that's different. And that's why he has to seduce every side of the issue. If you look more carefully, he almost never disobeyed direct orders, he just spent his time trying a way to understand them in a slightly more efficient way. I'd say you're confusing the Kirk from TOS and the Kirk from recent movies.
I agree that he's more careful, and that's what I like about him. I believe that quality is underrated in society today. If that makes me a secret teenager, so be it.Picard, in comparison, is much more conservative and careful , and he always does what is expected from him. He's the classic, predictable senior leader. He's the boring fatherhood figure a teenager serie would direly need.