Coz she's often also quite blunt socially, quite focussed on herself and she rules at organizing stuff, is highly, neurotically competitive and craves order. It's the SJ in her that makes her want to be all those things as it's expected by society and she takes pride in being the best.
That to me just indicates strong extraverted judgement, not Te over Fe. ESFJs are awesome at organising every detail, especially when it comes to family events/celebrations etc.
Neuroticism isn't related to MBTI, an ESFJ with a high neuroticism score would probably look just like her. Being neurotic doesn't make you a Te dom.
Ok, I'll go with ENFP for Phoebe...now that you mention it, Amargith, it makes more sense.
I still stand by ISTJ for Monica, though. She doesn't take command of situations involving new people comfortably the way ESTJs do; most of her micromanaging is done within the safe limits of her known social networks (Si dom.)
And Rachel...yeah, the more I watch the more I lean toward ESTP. She just tries to smooth talk everybody into things all the time and is just too fundamentally unaware of when she's bothering people to be ESFP. I don't see it.
As for Ross, he's so hilariously sensitive that I don't see how you can get T at all. I'm sticking with INFJ here. I think "be overly sensitive" is probably specifically written into the character, or at least that's how the actor seems to be playing it. The total opposite relationship he has with Rachel is intended to create a lot of the comedic interaction between them.
I take it nobody has any qualms with Chandler as ENTP and Joey as ESFP?
If you could be anything you want, I bet you'd be disappointed--am I right?
Joey - ESFP
Chandler - ENTP
Ross - INTJ and INFJ (Inconsistent writing)
Phoebe - ENFP
Rachel - ESTP
Monica - ESFJ (I don't find her selfish at all, whenever she does something that annoys the others ((taking complete control of phoebe's wedding etc.)) she only does it because she wants it to be the very best it can be. She's the ultimate host basically)