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    Quote Originally Posted by booyalab View Post
    Have you ever been 4? Kids at that age don't interact, much less have a social career. They color in unison until one kid steals another kid's crayon. Then crying ensues. You don't get meaningful relationships started from a mutual interest in paste flavor.
    By the age of four children are interacting. The age you're describing sounds much more to me like one and a half to two.

    After speaking with my Husband, MIL and reading this thread (thank you for your responses ) I am going to enroll Ree tomorrow in the preschool that I mentioned in my blog. It was the original preschool we were interested in during registration back in February but they didn't have any openings until after the 08/09 school year started (three weeks ago) and now have 2. I am guessing that either the families relocated or people are fickle and flip flop around. Either way I am happy with the fact that Ree knows the direction and assistant director as they were also the directors of the camp Ree went to over the Summer. They're laid back and very nice so it should work out very well for all of us.
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    Quote Originally Posted by booyalab View Post
    Have you ever been 4? Kids at that age don't interact, much less have a social career. They color in unison until one kid steals another kid's crayon. Then crying ensues. You don't get meaningful relationships started from a mutual interest in paste flavor.
    I remember interacting, playing, sharing, wrestling, accidentally making girls cry... in pre-school. I made a few friends in pre-school that remained friends throughout regular school.

    I'm not sure how pre-school was for you, if you went..

    I mean, maybe what your thinking of is even younger kids. Babies and toddlers have no social awareness really, but by the time you're 4 you are starting to.

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    Kids at 4 are still doing a lot of parallel play (which is what booyalab described) but it's still an important part of their development to get to do that. It doesn't have to happen in preschool, though.
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    Parallel play is a concept from developmental psychology. It means children playing side by side without interaction. It is commonly seen among children of ages 2 or 3. Children younger than that tend to play by themselves (solitary play). Older children interact with each other more (group play).

    In education, parallel play also describes activities where students are divided into pairs or small groups and work on the same activity simultaneously. This gives all students equal opportunity for active involvement and reduces the exposure. (Since all students are playing, none are watching.)
    All children are different but I've noticed that Ree does interact with certain children. She was quite close to our neighbors 3 year old triplets boys who recently moved. She knew them all by name and could tell them apart (something I never mastered) and they interacted extremely well together.
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    My daughter is 4 and goes to a home daycare. I struggled with putting her in preschool or not, the cost in this area is somewhere between $900 - $1400 a month. But, with my experience as a kid and watching my daughter, I don't think preschool will really do anything to make or break her.

    My daughter talks to everyone. Children, adults...whatever, she will talk to them and ask questions. It can get embarassing, to say the least.

    However, she is very nice and has always shown "charm" at least that is what everyone tells me. She has ingrained social skills, so I'm not really worried about that. Actually, no I am worried that she will distract others..but that is yet to be seen.

    And as far as learning, she loves it and is already ahead of her peers. Although I read that kids catch up to each other in 1st and 2nd grade, so her advancement is probably not a big deal.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    I'm not sure how pre-school was for you, if you went..
    I much preferred the company of adults in every daycare type thing I was enrolled in, but I'm not talking about myself. I taught sunday school and VBS for years when I was a teenager and still going to church. I also took child development courses and have read a decent amount on the subject. The relationship a 3-5 year old kid forms with his parents is way more important than the ones he forms with other kids. The only reason for sending a kid to preschool is if the alternative is leaving him to fend for himself at home. Or if the mother is a raging bitch or crackwhore and the father is an abusive alcoholic, I suppose. (hypothetically)
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    Quote Originally Posted by booyalab View Post
    I much preferred the company of adults in every daycare type thing I was enrolled in, but I'm not talking about myself. I taught sunday school and VBS for years when I was a teenager and still going to church. I also took child development courses and have read a decent amount on the subject. The relationship a 3-5 year old kid forms with his parents is way more important than the ones he forms with other kids. The only reason for sending a kid to preschool is if the alternative is leaving him to fend for himself at home. Or if the mother is a raging bitch or crackwhore and the father is an abusive alcoholic, I suppose. (hypothetically)
    Let's say the child doesn't really get peer interaction at home, how little importance do you put on peer interaction for 3-5 year old? The relationship with parents is important, but it's not like kids can't have that and go to pre-school.

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    That's my thinking-- sending a kid to preschool doesn't mean taking away from the relationship between parent and child. I don't think there's a slider bar involved, where to give in one area you have to take away from another.

    (I'd go to a slider bar, though. Tiny burgers and hooch? Sign me up!)
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    I was very fortunate to have the opportunity to put mine in a pre-school at the school they would attend starting kindergarten. 4 half days a week at age 4. It had a good balance of academics (reading, abc's, numbers) as well as socializing. It did them a world of good imo as they were more than ready for kindergarten.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    Preschool is good for kids that wouldn't have otherwise been introduced to their social peer group before Kindergarten.

    The main reason for preschool, in my eyes, to is teach kids how to play with each other, not to fight, how to share....
    That makes sense to me. I'm glad I went through pre-school because I was pretty isolated before that and it meant school was a little bit easier. Harder to learn how to socialise as you get older, I think.
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