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    ^ no it's good advice

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    i used to be the same way. eventually you realize what it costs you when you miss out on opportunities because of lack of confidence.

    i know it is easier said than done, but i replaced "what if" with "who cares"

    the only way to get anything done is just to jump in rather than overanalyse (i've found this out through trial and erroe)

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    Once the defined condition has been met. What is the defined condition?
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    I do these loops all the time... I'm a master of them.... It's really crippling actually, my mom does this too, I think I got it from her, and when we're on the phone it's like "The What If? Show" with SNS and her Mom.

    But anyway, my best advice to stop them is just to put one foot in front of the other... It's the only thing I found helpful.... Like if I'm getting a job, I'll let the what if cycle go on because it's nearly impossible to stop it for me, but at the same time, I'll just say, "well I'll just write my resume one section at a time" before I know it, all the sections are done, and then the next thing is "well I'll just drop it off." It's the only thing you can do to overcome it, and then as time goes on the loops can quiet down a bit and you feel a little more confident in yourself for being able to overcome your own mind. I've done this for every big situation in my adult life.... Baby steps.

    Baby steps to the door.... baby steps down the hall..... baby steps down the street..... baby steps to the place..... baby steps to the counter to ask for an application.....

    These loops can DESTROY YOUR LIFE! If you let them... don't let them!!! Take it from me.
    06/13 10:51:03 five sounds: you!!!
    06/13 10:51:08 shortnsweet: no you!!
    06/13 10:51:12 shortnsweet: go do your things and my things too!
    06/13 10:51:23 five sounds: oh hell naw
    06/13 10:51:55 shortnsweet: !!!!
    06/13 10:51:57 shortnsweet: (cries)
    06/13 10:52:19 RiftsWRX: You two are like furbies stuck in a shoe box

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    @shortnsweet-I'm taking your advice. I managed to ask for an application to one place yesterday and i am turning it in today. still nervous, but this needs to be done.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    @shortnsweet-I'm taking your advice. I managed to ask for an application to one place yesterday and i am turning it in today. still nervous, but this needs to be done.
    Awesome
    06/13 10:51:03 five sounds: you!!!
    06/13 10:51:08 shortnsweet: no you!!
    06/13 10:51:12 shortnsweet: go do your things and my things too!
    06/13 10:51:23 five sounds: oh hell naw
    06/13 10:51:55 shortnsweet: !!!!
    06/13 10:51:57 shortnsweet: (cries)
    06/13 10:52:19 RiftsWRX: You two are like furbies stuck in a shoe box

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    I did, it i actually applied for a job.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    close your eyes and jump into it... what's the worst thing that can happen? being told no? much better than being stripped naked, coated in jam and let loose in a bear pen
    “Oh, we're always alright. You remember that. We happen to other people.” -Terry Pratchett

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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    close your eyes and jump into it... what's the worst thing that can happen? being told no? much better than being stripped naked, coated in jam and let loose in a bear pen
    what if that happens?
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    what if that happens?
    it won't... you aren't applying anywhere where I would be your boss
    “Oh, we're always alright. You remember that. We happen to other people.” -Terry Pratchett

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