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    Post Homophobic ENTJ at work. How do I deal with it?

    I'm having this really uncomfortable situation at my job with this entj colleague who is extremely homophobic and I'm in a point where I'm fearing for my life.
    It all started at my first day of my new job, two months ago, at a telecom company. We are separated by what we call "islands" in a room that provides services 24/7. We have 3 islands and each island has a specific sector, and I am in the sector responsible with foreign costumers.
    I also work in the night shift and now and then I have to talk to the night shift's manager because as we are the only ones working so late, and the rest of the company is closed, we have to ask him to buy us food in the company's restaurant because he's responsible for the key of the restaurant.
    Here's the thing, this manager sits at the third island, far from me, and in my first day of work I went to his island to ask him to take some food for me and a guy I've never even had said hi to made a gay joke while I was passing by him.
    Until here, nothing wrong, as I'm used to it, and I didn't do anything because it was my first day.
    Time passes and it became clearly obvious that this guy who's teased me is a hardcore ENTJ (more on the really unhealthy side: nuclear bomb). I've also heard some gossips that he's involved with violent groups (gangs) and every time I crossed his path since then, he would make jokes, derogatory comments about gay people, stared me (with that typical ice gaze) and that kind of stuff.
    I'm not the only gay man there, but let's say I seem to be more "fragile" than the other ones (HEY I'M AN INXP!), due to shyness, and I wonder if the bullying comes from there.
    Everything reached a peak before yesterday. As I was passing by his island, the ENTJ man was with a group of friends, and at the right point I was passed by him, he started talking about when he studied in another country and he used to beat gay people there, and he made a really loud comment saying that our company is being "infested" by gay people and he would like to exterminate them all.
    It really pushed my buttons, and I turned around and said: "me?". This was enough to make him irate and he started babbling about not talking to me, but to his friends while I was passing by, and that I'm paranoid, etc. His friends started asking him to shut up, but he didn't stop and was getting really angry to the point of almost hitting me.
    I continued walking my way to the manager and the manager told me not to take that situation personally, and I told him that it wasn't the first time that kind of thing has happened and I was full of it.
    Then, I went to work yesterday, made the same things as usual, went to the manager to ask him to open the restaurant for me to buy some food and as I was walking by the said ENTJ, he didn't say a word, just started me with a really deadly look.
    I figured out that the manager must have talked to him, I think, due to fear of a lawsuit at his hands.
    The only people that have watched that disgusting scene was the manager and his friends, and I didn't tell anyone else about what has happened because it could escalate really fast and get, maybe, him fired or the company sued due to the gossip that would follow, even though I didn't want to sue.
    Anyway, I'm scared, and afraid of this ENTJ. I've stood up to him, and that must have made him hate me so much.
    Because of his history of violence and aggression, I fear for my physical integrity and even for my life.
    What should I do?
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    Speak to a lawyer.

    If those threats are real and physical in nature, you could be looking at quite a large settlement here.

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    Or you could just punch him in the windpipe.

    Whatever works best.

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    Oh, great, I really could see myself punching an entj!
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    Haha, well I am an ENTJ so my advice would be kind of predictable.

    You need to let the manager know that this situation if bad for the company (legal action) bad for you (discrimination), and that his employment reflects a corporate culture that doesn't give two shits about it's employees.

    It's amazing they've kept the guy this long. If the discrimination keeps up, you can get this guy fired, and you should.

    If they are intransigent, sue the company and look forward to some settlement $$$.

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    Kidding aside, this is what concerns me. If I do take action, and he's is fired, he will be free to beat or kill me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by braziljoe View Post
    Kidding aside, this is what concerns me. If I do take action, and he's is fired, he will be free to beat or kill me.
    No he won't, carry a knife.

    Keep one of these in your car:


    If he comes to your house, shoot him in the fucking face.

    If those are too much for you, get a tazer.

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    This guy sounds like he needs his breathing privileges revoked.

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    I don't have a car.
    But I also don't live in the same city where I work, so.
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    Just choose to do something about it.

    If you lay down and take it, you can look forward to this behavior continuing indefinitely.

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