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    Sugar Hiccup OrangeAppled's Avatar
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    I don't do either...

    I have general ideas of what I would like for my future, and I keep my eye out for stuff that seems like it has the potential to meet these.
    So I don't really plan, but I'm not living a day at a time either. I definitely have goals, they're just not very specific, because then I feel limited.
    I feel like the more open I am to unexpected developments, the more my ideals are met. The more specific & literal my goals are, the more I overlook other ways to meet my ideals, and then I end up frustrated & unfulfilled.
    Often a star was waiting for you to notice it. A wave rolled toward you out of the distant past, or as you walked under an open window, a violin yielded itself to your hearing. All this was mission. But could you accomplish it? (Rilke)

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    I have some goals but they're not completely fixed. They change according to the circumstances around me, meaning: if I notice I'm wasting time and/or they're not compatible with what I want out of life, I quickly change my goal/s. I would however find it pretty hard not to have any kind of direction, I would have no basis upon which I could build my choices.
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    Once in a while, I set grand goals, and work slowly to achieve them. I don't think about it much while I'm doing it, since I know in the back of my mind what the goals are the whole time. After a while, I may feel some stagnation in the "goals" department--maybe because I've reached a barrier, maybe because I've achieved the important parts of it--which is when I might reset and rechart new goals. So it goes in eras, epochs.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xisnotx View Post
    Do you set a goal and go after it, or do you just live life one day at a time and see where it takes you?

    So far, I've been doing the latter and I guess this is where it has taken me. Honestly, looking around, I have no right to complain about anything...I have a lot going for me. But it's looking like the whole "living life on a whim" thing is starting to not pan out as much as I would have liked. It turns out my "whims" are mostly centered around being lazy and enjoying the ride. Practical things like.... acquiring food, clothes, shelter...as they don't seem to just produce themselves out of thin air...I find myself needing to actually apply some effort into acquiring them.

    So, my question, really, is....how do you balance the "going after it" mindset with the "taking it easy" one?

    Is the life lived constantly on the go in the pursuit of self set goals better than the one devoted exclusively to taking life as it comes?

    I think one of my biggest fears is looking back at 75 and realizing I should have done it all differently. The good thing with having no goals is having nothing to fail at. The bad thing with having no goals is having nothing to do, just waiting around for death (though in essence that's all we all are doing...but I'm talking more about the meantime. I have a good 60 years or so before that happens...and 60 years is (quite literally, lol) forever for me). Goals also open up the possibility of failure, and I'm not sure which would be worse...the looking back and realizing you failed at your goals (and therefore a significant part of "life") or the looking back and realizing you should have been setting goals and have more or less drifted along life without doing anything.

    So yeah, how do you balance the two (concerns)?

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