I'm not sure what kind of feedback I can get between now and 4:00 CST today.. but I thought I'd give it a shot, at least I can vent.
I have this coworker that I've dealt with for years, and lately that means ignoring and avoiding and Te-ing her away. For a while I didn't have to work with here, but then I got dropped into her group, luckily not as physically close to the problem as others are.
She's an unbalanced ESTJ, I think. She has loads of ambition. She works hard on making sure that other people solve her problems for her and then takes credit for them. She's territorial, blames others for her mistakes. She equates people not immediately attending her needs as 'not liking her', and takes it very personally. Constantly drags her personal life into the mix. She rags on her ex-boyfriend as if they were still dating, who is also a coworker in our group. And, probably the worst part, she's friends with our boss.
Now, I've stayed out of her drama for the most part. But yesterday I got roped in. She sent me an e-mail, basically delegating to me the task of looking something up that she's perfectly capable of looking up herself and then have me tell her cronies the answer, because 'she's busy'.
I answered them the best I could, because the question was somewhat nonsensical. Then, I proceeded to talk about about her 'shitty question' (yes, I called it that), and then told her she should come over to talk to me next time so I could know what actual problem they were trying to solve.
This all snowballed into other events, eventually culminating with me running into her and my boss whispering in the hallway, and me interrupting them and asking if I should be involved in the conversation. They both looked surprised... and I estimate there's a 9.8% chance they weren't talking about me, revealing me to be an ass at that moment.
It just so happens that my performance review is scheduled late this afternoon. Also, it happens that the coworker situation is one of the most unhealthy things about our work environment, and I've been waiting to have some reason to make my effort to resolve it.
It is worth mentioning that I'm not exactly sure that my boss is willing friends with her. I think my boss may be an aspie and also easily gets railroaded, and doesn't do well with personal matters. I also have a track record of being uncomfortably brash about subject that bother me. I don't believe it's something appreciated by management.
So at the very least I want to explain my side, but I'm definitely considering taking this to the next level. How would you handle this?