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    Okay peeps, I need some advice! I have the opportunity to apply for a different position in my field, at a different by nearby institution. If I got that job, it would mean an increase in pay of about 15% and about 25% more vacation time. (Not to mention my job would be closer to home and I could bike there, thus saving $ on gas an parking!) However, I've just been promoted to a new position within my office (6 months ago) and I would feel a bit guilty about leaving so soon after being promoted.

    Let me give a bit of background:

    I work at a large public university in the study abroad office. I've worked here for 4.5 years; 4 of those years, I was an Enrollment Specialist, which basically meant I did all the administrative-type work related to our study abroad programs (filing, application databasing, sending out emails, etc). But ESs are also expected to, and therefore I also did,higher-up things like advising and presentations. But ESs still get the crappy benefits and pay of an administrative assistant, not to mention a distinct lack of respect. During those 4 years, I was passed over for a promotion once in favor of someone with less experience in the office than I had (this was my office's decision), and also denied a reclassification of my position (and thus higher pay) which I and my supervisor felt I deserved because of all the higher-up things I did (this time it was the University's decision to deny).

    Six months ago, I reapplied for the promotion/higher position (Assistant Program Director - it sounds fancier than it is!!) and got it. At that time, my benefits increased a lot (more vacation time, much better retirement plan), and my salary increased a little (about 4.5%). But almost immediately after I got this new position, the University approved a plan to balance its budget by requiring all employees to take a 1.5% pay cut. So I got paid at 4.5% more than my entry-level, union job for 4 months, and now for the last two months I have been making only 3% more. It's still better than being in my old position and taking a pay cut, but still!

    My husband and I bought a house last year and have had to put some significant repairs into it since then (new roof, furnace and now AC), and we hope to start trying to start a family next summer. Besides that, my husband wants to go back to school so he can get a different job (he works a dangerous job with crappy hours, right now). It would be very difficult for us to manage a baby on my current salary, not to mention him going back to school as well. So personally and for the sake of my family, I really feel like I should go for this job. But out of loyalty to my office and somewhat to the University, I feel like I should stick around. But I don't know when another opportunity like this will open up... positions in my field don't open up too often, especially a position that wouldn't require us to move!

    So, help me out. What should I do?

    (Of course, this is all assuming I am offered the position! I think I'll apply either way and if offered it I'll decide what to do, but of course I might not even be offered it! But I think I have a good chance.)
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    I'd leave to pursue the better offer. Don't let ethics or guilt hold you back. Your current employer wouldn't, if they had to. Make the best decision for you and your family. Nobody else matters.



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    I think you owe it to your colleagues in your current workplace to move on, opening up another position for one of them to be promoted into.

    In all seriousness, you do what you have to do where jobs are concerned. Your employer would not bat an eye at letting you go if their business model required it.

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    Yeah, there's seriously no reason not to take this new job. Don't fall victim to normative commitment, it's a trap.

    Then again, if you haven't even been offered this position yet then it is definitely not the time to be making this decision.

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    It sounds like you have your mind already made up and you're looking for moral support, so just take the job. Can you imagine working at your current employer and missing out on what you could have gained? It wouldn't take much to make you regret doing that. Besides, leaving for another job is only shady if you take off right after your first employer sinks a lot of money into your training.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blown Ghost View Post
    It sounds like you have your mind already made up and you're looking for moral support, so just take the job. Can you imagine working at your current employer and missing out on what you could have gained? It wouldn't take much to make you regret doing that. Besides, leaving for another job is only shady if you take off right after your first employer sinks a lot of money into your training.
    No, I really don't have my mind made up... like I said, I have to apply first and I may not even be offered the job. But I want to think it through beforehand, so that in the event that I am offered the position, I don't have to decide on a rush basis!

    Currently, my new employer hasn't put any money into my training. I was supposed to do some traveling in April for training, but due to the ash cloud that trip ended up being canceled! I am due to go in October instead, but I think I would know about this job before I'd have to book the flight for that, so that is good.
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    If you are offered the new job, before accepting you could give your current employer the opportunity to match your new pay and benefits. But Jock and Oberon are correct: you certainly do not owe your employer more loyalty than they are willing to show you. You have your own business model to follow. If you do move on, just do the usual to avoid burning a bridge: give them as much notice as possible, offer to train your replacement, do your best to leave on good terms with everyone, etc. etc.

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    I wouldn't worry about it either, sounds like a great opportunity. People leave jobs all the time when a better opportunity comes up. But yes, as much notice as possible and training replacement and being nice always helps.

    Good luck!
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    I think you should definitely pursue the better job.
    I think they will be fine without you; people leave jobs all the time.

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