This is a question related to work, but first I have a son that has A.D.D. not A.D.H.D. He will be 16 in few days. Well now that summer is here, he wants to get a summer job.
He is a really good kid. He never gets into any trouble. Tries to please his teachers and others. Does his chores without having to be told and is very loving.
Here's the problem, yesterday he went with a friend from school to go job hunting. So one of the asked him to come back tomorrow. So anyhow today he went to the small grocery store. They guy there kept him for a very short time and told him he has no talent, so they can't hire him.
My son has problems with communicating. Sometimes I ask him a question and it is like . He may not respond. I remember one time he came out with a broken front tooth. It took him 3 days before he told me he walked into a pole he hadn't seen. There are problems with math and mental calculations, meaning if I give him 10 L.E. (Egyptian pounds) and something costs 6.50. He won't count up or subtract. I have tried showing him, persuading him. My husband has also talked, showed, persuaded and just got down right demanding on him to pay attention to the change, do the math. Well he never showed an interest nor tried. He just hands us the change, without counting or looking. Luckily the people in the stores around here are honest.
Another thing cleanliness. I have talked to him, demanded him to shower and change daily. I don't know if it is a teenage thing or an A.D.D. thing or both.
I feel angry that the guy told him he has no talent. I told my son that what he meant was talent in counting and communication.
What summer type of job could he get? I hate for him to feel this way.
On a side note his younger brother got a side job, at a Playstation cafe. He has had this job since school let out. It's not really busy so he gets to play games in his spare time. He helps hook up things or in the kitchen, just doing various things where ever they want him.
Anyhow I'm thinking this experience just may show him the need to pay attention and do calculations. It is not like I have not tried, it is his abilities. My 3 and a half year old can count, recognize very simple take away problems with things of course not with numbers yet and my other two knew how much they were supposed to get back by the time they were in second grade. I have always given them some pocket money and when they go to buy things they want to know how much they will have left. So in addition to school they had an incentive to learn mental calculation and quick.
If anyone has A.D.D. or has experience dealing with it, pointers are needed. BTW he is in a special school not in a typical language school.
Well there is one good thing. I told him to take a shower and I will go out with him later to look into a summer job, working in a restaurant or something. I might just end up taking him and my daughter window shopping downtown. Since I haven't been out of the house myself in weeks.