I've just "help" my brother with his English assignment and I am beyond frustrated with the issue.
He's in his last year in high school and is not doing well in his classes. My mother came back from a parent teacher meeting and told me he's currently receiving 40% in physics and 50% in math. He's not doing that much better for the rest of the subjects.
Back to the English assignment, it perfectly illustrates my dilemma. I don't mind spending some time proofreading his work, but his writing is completely scattered with no apparent direction or structure. Think of a bunch of facts thrown on a page in sentences. I can correct mirror grammatical errors, but really the thing needs to be completely rewritten. I've told my mother that and was "asked" to rewrite it for him. Needless to say I am not happy with it. That's no solution to the problem.
The main problem here though is his lack of efficiency at getting things done. This was a page of writing. It took him 3 days to research and write it up? On some nights he didn't even go to bed until 2/3 in the morning.
What, if anything, can I do? It's pointless for me to do his work for him. More likely to do him more harm than good.
He doesn't listen very well to suggestions, temper gets in the way. Far too focused on the details... getting a particular thing done perfectly that he ignores everything else. (Stupid hardheaded ESFJ, no offense to the rest of you) He seems to have no concept of time management nor efficient allocation of resources. He's failing Physics and Math because he's scared of them and gave up... doesn't even try to study.
You can't teach somebody that doesn't want to learn. That's my take on this issue. My mother is obviously stressed out over this and it's affecting the whole family. She thinks I don't do anything because I don't care and the fact that it's too much work. Really I'm not doing anything because I don't see how anything I do can help.
Now I'm all stressed out. Excuse my rant.