The consistency thing is true for me too. The difference between doing something once to cheer someone up and doing a whole lot of things to show I care over a period of time.
Also, one can usually tell with me if I try to make conversation or stick around afterwards. Do I just drop a note, or a gift and then am off on my way? Or do I stick around to MAKE that deeper connection and find out what else is going on in their life and what their feelings are and figure out when I can see them again. I'd say it's all in the body language with me. I can be nervous and quiet even if I do really care for someone, but if I don't want to connect I'm really cold, short and flighty, and it's usually obvious I want to move on to something else. At least.. I think so.
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Forming characters! Whose? Our own or others? Both. And in that momentous fact lies the peril and responsibility of our existence. - Elihu Burritt
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