Physical: I like dark hair, just long enough to run my fingers through. It's rare I'm attracted to blondes or redheads. (Though it's rare I'm attracted to someone based on looks at all. >.>) I go for the stereotypical tall dark and handsome, but really, I can FIND attractive things about people if I want to. I love everything style-wise. Metro is a clean and respectable sexy and rugged or just comfortable is nice and masculine. Long as they don't smell bad. Slightly toned or slightly chubby and cuddly is best (especially since I'm certainly no twig and don't want someone smaller than me!), but toooo much extra weight looses some attractive points. So does too much muscle. I certainly wouldn't complain if they were built, but I do like the little bit of squishy. :3
Emotional: Respectful, honest, all that typical good stuff. The empath in me tends to fall for the needy, wanting to be that person to make everything all better, or the total unstable because they light me up trying to figure them out, but I've learned that both of those create horrible co-dependence, so while I still have that inkling, I find emotional independence and confidence *more* attractive now. I want to be wanted, not needed.
I tend to have a thing for sensitive/girly(F?) guys, I guess because it shows me they trust me enough to show me their emotions, though shows of masculinity and dominance still get me going. Maybe I'm weird, but attention kind of makes me feel awkward, so *I* prefer to do the romancing(not that I'd refuse them pulling their weight of thoughtfulness
). They gotta be upbeat and fun-loving to cheer me up when NF moodiness kicks in(especially since I want to be a therapist or counselor). I also hope they'd want to better themselves and make others happy, because that's what I try to do too. I get ridiculously giddy when I see guys who have a talent or personality that can spread positive feelings. And for some reason, I have an affinity for obnoxious asses just because I admire the balls they have to mess with people like I would never be able to. That's probably a bad thing, though. -.-
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The two people I've fallen in love with have been 'free spirits'. Arg, haha. I love those who walk their own path and move to the beat of their own drum -- but usually this quality also coexists with one who doesn't want to 'settle down' -- like a bird in flight. But they're the only ones I've fallen for. Perhaps one day the birds will land. :-)
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Same thing exactly, even the number. XD The first I know is an ESFP with a well developed intuition, the second an E_F_. I'm thinking ENFJ, but he switches around a lot. Really, with wanting someone who wants to bring joy to others any ExFx would most likely suit that just fine.
Mental: I like debate. Seriously.. nothing really excites me like toying with ideas, playful power struggles and flirtatious banter. So there has to be some common denominator of higher reasoning if not intellectual knowledge. Plus I like sharing new concepts and ideas, so it'd be nice if they could also have some input. Smarter, and especially more worldly people would intimidate me, but as long as they don't hold it over my head(I have insecurities from being called stupid a lot by my parents, plus failing at a lot of the things I try to do at first.), I'd probably like that.
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Um...I want to share a life with someone and grow with them. Mutual respect and love. Someone who isn't caught up in material things and prestige and status...someone more on a spiritual plane perhaps. But, I also don't want someone TOO much like me, that would probably be bad.
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Again, I agree with you on that!
Now.. that's my huge ass list of ideals, and experiences thus far...but really... as long as that person knows what they want, and why they want it out of life, and chooses to want me, accepting of all my strengths and weaknesses, along and support me in the same way, I can probably learn to deal with the bad and love the good. Hopefully, we'd be on similar paths and lifestyles, but with our own personal interests and quirks enough to keep it interesting.