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Originally Posted by hotmale
I think it's more that I would like her to spend more time with me- than wanting her to change her personality- which I happen to be very fond of. Since she is very much interested in abstract pursuits, what would be a good strategy for her to accompany me to events which she absolutely hates? I like to go out to a good party- whereas she would rather stay home and read a book. I don't mind she has these interests- it's just sometimes, I would like her to make more of an effort as opposed to me always making the suggestions.
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She probably wishes that you didn't expect her to go places like parties as often as you ask her to, and probably wishes you just wanted to analyze abstract ideas and such. But if you would decide to somewhere with a mix of intellectual and anecdotal conversation, that might be enough. She probably entertains your suggestions because she likes you, but that's probably not what she really finds interesting. Even if it is, she probably isn't really interested in thinking about that kind of thing on her own initiative. You see?
Ironically, trying to get someone to accompany you to events they hate... kind of is trying to change their personality. However, I suppose you could ask what she wants to do, and then say, "I'll do that with you, if you do this with me." You can set it up as a compromise, I presume.