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Originally Posted by meanlittlechimp
That's because you think they don't exist (and there must be some ulterior motive), because you think everyone is like you... cold and selfish.
Seriously though, I "act" very generous, and have been told so by folks most of my life. But I don't really consider myself altruistic or even generous; it's more to do with the fact, I just don't care that much about money. Even when I'm broke - I figure what's the difference, if I spend my last 100 bucks on a round for everyone or save it to eat better tomorrow.
Being a little broke vs a little less broke is the same thing in my mind. Being fairly well off vs a little less well off is also the same thing in my mind.
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Thank you, I was going to say something similar... it really, really pisses me off when the one fucking part of me that I know is all good is brought into question by cynical fuckers who just can't stand the thought that there might be 'another' decent person on the planet (besides themselves, that is).
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This isn't rational, however, because I've blown fortunes thinking this way, because these actions add up over time, but I just can't change my behavior.
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This part doesn't apply to me though... I've always been pretty good with managing my money, so I know how much I can afford to splash out and give away, whilst still leaving enough behind to pay the bills. Maybe it's having kids did that to me...
About spending the last 100 bucks on a round for everyone - that's exactly the kind of thing I do all the time, except I'm not, in my mind, nobly sacrificing myself or anything. I'm confident that providence (a very good friend of mine that's been faithful to me many years) will cough up with something. That is, I'll manage to blag something when the time comes - I always do.
But let's give the guy a fair hearing:
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Originally Posted by Mycroft
Be very, very wary of people who consider themselves "generous by nature".
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I'm genuinely interested in exactly what your reasoning is for saying that. Just what do you think I might actually mean, to your mind, or what sort of behaviour would you expect of someone who said that?
It's just a level of cynicism that I find difficult to relate to, that's all.
I mean, it's not as if I go around proclaiming myself to be generous all the time. I just do what I do all the time, one result of which is that I'm often told that I'm generous and that I have a generous nature. What exactly is wrong with that?