UPDATE: So I was really plain and said flat out, I will
never, ever change my mind. I am
very sure about this.
He said my words really hurt.
I asked him never to bring the topic up again because if he did, i wasn't sure if we could even be normal friends anymore.
He said ok. I wouldn't have to worry about it.
Few days later.. he sends me a text saying thanks for being nice the other day, sorry for making things between us go sour.
1. How should i interpret this?
2. Is he technically talking about the topic again?
3. Should i reply? (I'm guessing Googly_Eyes says no..?)
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Maybe I missed it, but why are you so certain this guy's an ESFP? That lifelong unrequited love stuff doesn't resonate with me at all.
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He took the test. Yeah, its weird.
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he's not hearing you because you've changed your mind too many times and given him a "second" chance. because of that, it's easy for him to tell himself that this is temporary.
by doing it the way you've done it in the past, you've not only heightened his interest via causing him to chase you (intentionally or not), but you've inadvertently given him positive reinforcement every time he's kept trying.
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Thanks, this makes sense. Argh, foolishness kills me D:
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I've seen an ESFP do this before. Whatever you do, don't give him any impression that you could both still be together some day (not that I think you are). In the case I saw, he (the ESFP) wound up being led on for a year until something happened that finally made him realize it would never happen. It wasn't pretty.
It's a really crappy thing to do to somebody, but I'd recommend avoiding him. Don't answer his calls, don't return his messages, pretend your not there if he shows up at your house. And if you find yourself in a position where you can't avoid him, be cold and distant towards him. You've made yourself clear and if he can't accept that then it's his problem. Wait until he stops trying to get your attention or be around you to start hanging out with him again.
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Thanks, yeah that sounds like a good idea. Only thing though, being my idiotic self I've ignored him in the past then started talking to him after a while (when my conscience told me I was being too 'mean' by ignoring him). Do you think he will take this avoidance as "temporary" (to quote digesthisickness)?