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Originally Posted by Neo Genesis
I tend to withdraw so that I can get a grip and deal with the problem. Typically, I get angry at myself for dumping my burdens on other people.
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Same here, the more serious the sadness the more I need solitude. I can't even function enough to warn people I care about that i am about to go off the rails and withdraw for what could be a considerable amount of time. I just do it. I get sick of telling people how I feel, especially since sadness seems to be a pretty constant companion how many more times do I have to hear them pity me, or roll their eyes at how unable I am to get to grips with my problems, easier to withdraw and deal with the issue alone.
However if I knew I had a friend who would never judge me for my weaknesses I could probably do with a hug, some emotional support, don't tell me how to fix the problem, I already know how to fix it I just can't/won't whilst I feel so sad about it. I just need a shoulder, a non judgemental shoulder, someone who isn;t trying to fix me, who doesn't make me feel pressured to be better, to fix up and get a grip. However I don't have friends like that, I have needy friends who need me to support them in a non judgemental way, my sadness is my own to deal with.