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Originally Posted by sade
Oh and please don't get upset for my sake or show huge amounts of feeling, because that makes me feel the need to tend to your emotions. If you start crying or get truly offended for my sake I feel that I need to comfort you. Be the stronger one, so that I don't need to be it and can be sad.
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Part of this is so true for me.
That part about others picking up on my feelings and adopting them as their own. In some situations it almost feels like emotional vampirism to me. When I'd call my mom and be upset about something, she'd take it all on bigtime and pretty soon it was her issue and less mine. That always feels uncomfortable to me.
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