Ok,
UPDATE:
I've told him, "Its not going to happen." He asked why. I explained [cited the commitment reason and what i've learnt from here, ie. that its not fair for him to have to change]. He's sad but said, "What can i say?"
Then he asked about his strengths and flaws, besides the commitment issue. So I told him what I thought they were. (this is probably because, before I came on here to get advice, I asked him to list my strengths and flaws too - strengths, because I was pretty sure he didn't know me thaaaat well so I wanted to know why on earth he was attracted to me (I promise I was
not trying to flirt AT ALL in case it could be construed that way), and flaws, because i was trying to get him to see for himself why he wouldn't like to be with me (stupid idea?) )
Anyway, he didn't say anything for a while... Then he started asking about things unrelated to our relationship. Like normal things, that normal people chat about.
I'm trying to figure out what the implication of this is:
a) he's bounced back already and is totally fine
b) he's giving the illusion of having bounced back already to hide his hurt feelings
c) he just disregarded what I said about our relationship not advancing to 'more than just friends', and thinks if he continues trying to talk to me he'll eventually win me over?? [I read
here that ESFPs are "arrogant" - I'm not sure, could this possibly be evidence of such arrogance? Bearing in mind, of course, that people aren't 100% true to their MB type]
d) ?????
I'm not at all sure about those possibilities, can anyone else think of more? I will tear my hair out if it turns out to be (c).
[ok kidding, but it'd be pretty aggravating/exasperating]
Or, maybe I should just wait and see how this plays out?
Also, should I answer and treat him like a person, or avoid him for the time being? I don't want to fall back into casual conversations again only to have him fall for me again, and repeat this whole rejection process again
