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Originally Posted by Twixt
I think its because, being an ENFP, I'm all for personal growth haha. So even if I'm not romantically attracted to him I still want him to grow as a person? But then again, how can I know my ways are the 'right' ways for him to grow, right. Haha ok. Point taken, thanks  Mixed messages are the worst, I know, and yeah I'd hate to deal with a disingenuous person too. |
It sounds like the situation calls for sending him the clear message that you will never be interested in him romantically, and that you
aren't thinking about his personal growth (even if you are.) If he thinks that showing signs of growth is the ticket to winning your love, then he's going to keep feeding you those lines about changing to please you.
At this point, I'd put his inner life on the back burner, because it's only making him think you're more interested in him than you really are. People grow inwardly when they're ready for it, or when life situations are such that they can't ignore their own problems anymore, and if this guy is thinking he can make sweeping changes in his life for the sake of love, then he's not ready for it. SPs are pretty visually oriented, so I'm thinking it might help to make your body language more chilly around him. You can be courteous yet cold, if you know what I mean.
Sarah
ISFP