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If he does change, it doesn't seem fair to do it for anyone else, he should do it for himself, that would be better for his long term personal growth and it would avoid him saying to you "I did this for us to have a chance", and thus putting relationship expectations on you.
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Thank you Siegfried, I didn't think of that! Haha (i'm an oblivious idiot i know)
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And don't tell yourself yes because you think he'll change. I know the offer to change must be pretty enticing to an NF but you either like him for who he is or not at all.
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^ Very true, thank you for reminding me of that Googly_Eyes! I think that was what my subconscious might have been thinking. But I'll be firm now.
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As for the whole work environment thing, yeah, it probably will affect that. SPs don't take well to rejection so their natural spontaneity (inadvertent disregard for social/professional/business conduct) doesn't bode well for the person they feel they've been scorned by, especially in the case of ESFPs. I've seen some ESFPs do some pretty stupid things after breakups and rejections. A good ESFP friend of mine started sleeping around with his ex's friends just to piss her off (but what she did to him was pretty bad in that case - not that I'm justifying it, just saying you probably don't need to expect that). And a friend of mine recently broke up with an ESFP and now he's calling her day and night just so he can argue with her - and he's the one who dumped her.
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^ Eep, doesn't sound too good. But nevermind, I'll risk it. Because what there is to gain is much more than what there is to lose.
And... (ok this is gonna sound like idealistic fluff lol) I'm hoping we'll still remain, of course not best buddies, but on cordial, friendly, speaking terms? That's possible right? Seeing as both our types are.. generally quite accepting of everyone?? (Please correct me if i'm wrong, I'm rather new to this!)