Be blunt. Too many times have I seen a feeler be way too loosey goosey about something like this, both allowing the harassment to continue and leading the guy/girl on through excruciating torment until they're faced with devastating heartbreak. Put yourself in his shoes. If you liked him but he didn't like you, would you rather he told you it definitely wasn't going to happen or that he give you some straws to clutch at for two or more years even though he knew full well that it wasn't going to happen?
Just tell him no - NO - and if he acts like a jackass (ie. typical SP response to rejection) then, well, he's a jackass. But you both deserve better and there's a simple solution to this.
And if I'm getting the wrong impression and you have done this then just avoid him. You've made yourself clear and if he can't accept it then that's his problem. You don't have to cut him out of your life completely, just give him some time to fall out of love with you and then things can go back to normal. A more normal normal.
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