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Originally Posted by Metanoia
I never felt anger and I do not know how I would be when under that state. People are also curious as to how will I deal with that kind of emotion.
Please take note that anger and being irritated are two different things.
For INTJs:
Have you ever been angered before? Why? What was it like?
How will INTJs show anger? How do you do it?
How long did it lasted? Did you regret it?
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I have just finished reading through this thread, and I am really finding it hard to believe
that there are so many people here who say they have never been angry.
I grew up in an angry home.
Having been exposed to so much anger, I thought that's how everybody was.
I thought that was the normal way to communicate your feelings.
In my early adult years, I was angry practically 24/7!
Any slight provocation would set me into a yelling tirade.
I am a "four"; they are especially fond of showing their feelings.
I can't
count the number of times I have made a jerk out of myself in public by blowing up at someone in anger!
I never hit anyone, but I am short and female, so perhaps it's only because I didn't think I would win.
(Though I did bounce a couple of fights when I was a bartender.)
As far as how long it lasted... a yelling spree might last for 5 - 10 minutes depending on the opposition.
They say the chemicals created in your body when you're angry take at least 30 minutes to dissipate.
I have seen this bear out to be true over the years.
I still remember the very first time I ever heard a
soft-spoken woman speak.
I remember exactly where I was and what I was doing.
I had never heard such a thing in all my life.
I remember wanting to be like her.
I was about 28 years of age.
I hardly ever express outright anger any more and I hardly ever get angry any more.
I have learned to be patient, to not take life so seriously and to laugh at myself.
When I do express my anger in a loud and demonstrative way, I deeply regret it.
Expressing anger in a violent way doesn't do any good.
There is such anger as righteous indignation which can and should be expressed in constructive ways,
but most expressed anger is destructive.