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chatoyer · 08-02-2007, 06:12 PM

There's an ENFP acquaintance of mine that displayed so well the good & bad traits of our type, I had to share......she's not BAD, but I had to put this somewhere!

We were in an organization together, & she would inevitably be convinced by others to be in a leadership role & take on too many responsibilities. She was great at getting people excited & motivated about a project, like a fundraising type thing, she would come up with all the ideas......& then she would become completely flaky about attending meetings, tending to the details of the project, & then ultimately would get out of her responsibilities of the grand project. Her excuses would be the sort that no one could criticize, they were emotionally loaded, things like "my marriage is in trouble" or "I/my spouse was injured/really ill & can't do anything", these could be legitimate, but they could be interpreted as traps, where her lack of follow-through would not be criticized. So, people would rescue her from the project, & tend to all the details, & what was amazing is that she would remain likeable throughout the whole ordeal! She would be off the hook, the project would be a success, & she was unscathed by her irresponsibility. I saw this happen a few times, & the cycle became predictable.

I think it's good to observe our type from a distance like that, it provides some objectivity of how we might be really irritating/amusing other people.

08-02-2007, 06:12 PM	#33 (permalink)
chatoyer Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Type: enfp Posts: 102	not bad-BAD There's an ENFP acquaintance of mine that displayed so well the good & bad traits of our type, I had to share......she's not BAD, but I had to put this somewhere! We were in an organization together, & she would inevitably be convinced by others to be in a leadership role & take on too many responsibilities. She was great at getting people excited & motivated about a project, like a fundraising type thing, she would come up with all the ideas......& then she would become completely flaky about attending meetings, tending to the details of the project, & then ultimately would get out of her responsibilities of the grand project. Her excuses would be the sort that no one could criticize, they were emotionally loaded, things like "my marriage is in trouble" or "I/my spouse was injured/really ill & can't do anything", these could be legitimate, but they could be interpreted as traps, where her lack of follow-through would not be criticized. So, people would rescue her from the project, & tend to all the details, & what was amazing is that she would remain likeable throughout the whole ordeal! She would be off the hook, the project would be a success, & she was unscathed by her irresponsibility. I saw this happen a few times, & the cycle became predictable. I think it's good to observe our type from a distance like that, it provides some objectivity of how we might be really irritating/amusing other people.