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Originally Posted by dissonance
Meh. Everyone has some maladaptive trait (especially at 22) that's leftover from childhood. That doesn't mean everyone is childish. This is a real issue that some people still deal with, and just saying "try harder" or "discipline yourself" isn't necessarily helpful to hear. It's not like he hasn't thought of that before.
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Mayhap he hasn't. Maybe everyone just sympathized him, agreed with him, or just got pissed instead of trying to give possibilities. I don't *know* him, who he is, or what he's been through. It seemed the sentiments were plenty, as were the pissed off people.. so I thought I'd cover a different base.
I know "Try harder" doesn't work in and of itself. But sometimes, to hear why you need to try harder and why you might need to discipline yourself, does help.
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Originally Posted by Jack Flak
I would think it doesn't hurt to know it's not the rest of the world which is going to change. And if one's attitude grates on people, and one doesn't like the reception one gets, one may try to adapt to one's surroundings.
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Right. It seems he's incapable of adapting to the world around him.. How are we to know if he's aware of this or not? Since it seemed he wasn't the way he posted.
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Originally Posted by niffer
For me, these two things seem to be unrelated. In the past I've scored from 145-160 in IQ tests. I don't consider myself to be atypically intelligent or whatever, and I certainly don't consciously "dumb myself down" to communicate with other people, because it is not in my nature to speak using eloquent words and complex language in situations where it is unnecessary. I don't personally consider IQ tests to be a useful indicator of anything, except perhaps adaptability. I am always patient with people who have good intentions.
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Well stated. I feel the same way.. Even if someone's meaning is lost in their attempts, I can usually pick it up where they left off and complete the thought, and together make it something tangible and worth while. I don't think he's ever had the pleasure of doing this, the negative and bitter way he feels about it all.
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Originally Posted by wildcat
IQ is not about intelligence.
Nor it is about patience.
It is about old money.
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Originally Posted by Little Linguist
<has an outburst> Ah, who gives a fart, anyway???
Eh, sorry, had to say it.
Why are people so flipping obsessed with being bright or not??? Hell, I prefer to be underestimated. Then people don't demand so goddamn much, and when you actually *do* say something intelligent, people just stare and think, "Holy shit! That came from *her*??? Goddamn, she *can* be smart when she wants to be!!!!"
Versus claiming extreme intelligence, in which case everyone tries to tear you down because they are jealous, or have complexes, (or you have the complexes because you can't stand the thought of being normal), in which case people only say, "Pfft, she thinks she's so smart - sometimes she can be a total dumbass." "Yeah, no shit, she acts like a retard half the time!!!"
So, hmmmmmmm, let me think for a second - which one would I rather have happen??? That's right folks, the first.  |
Feel better now sweets?
Right. I'm not anyone of above average intelligence. I'm pretty normal in school, work, and just about anything else in life.. I reserve my need to achieve more for those things that exceed my everyday lifestyle.