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Originally Posted by Bella
I think it's the lack of planning that makes us dislike making decisions based on feeling. Planning and thinking ahead etc when making a decision makes you feel in control. So, yes, it is probabaly a case of control vs spantaniety.
Heaven forbid, spontaneity......  |
I'm pretty sure my dad is an ISTJ. He rarely makes gut decisions. He always researches everything (vacation, electronics, restaurants) before deciding. He was so confused when I said I wanted a new computer.. he fought it SO hard. Just couldn't see why I needed it. He's sort of self-centered =/ My mom sometimes buys things in secret. Alas, one day on vacation in Florida we were trying to find a restaurant to eat at. We drove up the entire road, past all kinds of places. I saw a Boston Market and was like, "let's eat there!". Of course since dad is driving the car, we have to see ALL the possibilities (and get lost on side streets a few times) before ending up at, what do you know, Boston Market.
Though actually I sometimes have a run-in with his feelings. When he's upset, he makes it very visible. He sits at the kitchen table with his head in his hands trying to send everyone on a guilt trip. Other times I start arguments about his faults and I think it really hurts his feelings, but what do I care, I'm an INTJ.
He had the worst temper too, for a long time. It's not so bad now. I will always remember how he would turn purple in less than 10 seconds with his eyes bulging out of his head.. scariest thing I will ever see.
He never spent time with me or my brother when we were children because he was too busy being "productive". He never has time to fix things anymore but he still insists that eventually he'll get around to it. Hire someone to fix it? Of course not! That's why the ceiling tiles in the basement still aren't all in.