I've gained more patience with listening to and respecting other people's perspectives. I feel less and less convinced that my personal opinions are the ultimate answer to everything. Although I think it's helpful to know what you value and why, I don't like it when I find myself making swift-and-final value judgments about value-neutral stuff, and I try to be aware of that happening.
Also, when I was younger I had a "nice and sweet" surface persona, but underneath I was completely self-absorbed. Over the years (well, I'm 37 now), I've realized how often I cut people off, ignored them while they were speaking to me, or didn't notice others' feeling states unless it looked like they were feeling the same thing I was. I feel today that I have a lot more options as far as my behavior because I notice it as it affects others more, rather than just noticing my own actions for my own approval.
Sarah
ISFP
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