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Originally Posted by disregard
I think that if you always feel that you aren't pretty enough, it isn't your looks that are to blame, but low self-esteem.
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Yes, I agree, but do the other women?
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Originally Posted by Jennifer
In general, men seem to get hung up on their virility/power and lose self-esteem when they feel weak.
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Ok, I can buy that. To me it seems like some of the low-esteem guys compensate by building muscles. I've actually heard someone say it out loud: "I was bullied in school, but then I went to gym" And that guy was
huge.
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Originally Posted by Jennifer
Women seem to get hung up on their appearance and how they come across to others and lose self-esteem when they feel ugly -- which can include appearance but also "who they are" personality-wise. [Another word for it: "Desirability"]
It's the same way with the condition of the home too. (The guy will not care what the house looks like, typically; but the woman will feel embarrassed about letting anyone in while it's a mess... to her, anyway.)
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So it comes down to nature? Male = strong, female = desirable. I'd like some opinions on this one...
But, are you implying that while women need to seem like good child-bearers (beautiful means good genes) they also need to show that they are able to maintain a good household?
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Originally Posted by Jennifer
We can explore why that is, but that's the typical pattern in western culture at least.
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My friend referred to corsets and such that were used before (our) western culture. Chinese feet, Egyptian make-up.